Wedding Planning: Your Essential Guide to the Big Day

Planning your wedding day can feel like a whirlwind of excitement, decisions, and questions. From choosing the perfect venue to managing the guest list, there are a lot of moving parts. To assist you in this process, we’ve compiled a list of the most commonly asked wedding planning questions that couples often face. Read on for expert advice on everything from costs to customising your day, all while ensuring your celebration is as magical as you’ve always dreamed.

The cost of a wedding varies greatly depending on location, size, and your personal preferences. On average, couples in the UK spend anywhere between £15,000 and £30,000 on their big day. This includes venue hire, catering, entertainment, and photography. However, it’s essential to set a realistic budget based on your priorities and what’s important to you. Consider what’s non-negotiable and where you can make adjustments to ensure your day reflects your vision without overspending.

Absolutely! Wedding insurance offers peace of mind, protecting you against unforeseen circumstances like vendor cancellations, venue issues, or even extreme weather conditions. There are different types of coverage, so it’s worth shopping around to find the policy that suits your needs. Insurance can also cover loss of deposits, which can be invaluable if plans change unexpectedly.

Choosing the perfect venue is one of the most important decisions you’ll make. Consider factors such as:

• Capacity: Does the venue fit your guest list?
• Location: Is it convenient for your guests to travel to?
• Ambience: Does it reflect your wedding style, whether you’re going for rustic charm, glamour, or something more intimate?
• Amenities: Does the venue offer everything you need, from catering to accommodations for out-of-town guests?

At Manor by the Lake, we offer a beautiful lakeside setting with a range of facilities and a dedicated team to help bring your vision to life.

When touring venues, ask about:

• Availability: Is your chosen date available?
• In-house services: Do they provide catering, decorations, and other essential services, or do you need to arrange them separately?
• Costs: What’s included in the price? Are there hidden fees, or are certain services available at an additional cost?
• Accommodations: Is there lodging for your guests, especially if they’re travelling from far away?
• Restrictions: Are there any restrictions on decorations, music, or catering options?

The “30-5 minute rule” for weddings means that any task which typically takes 5 minutes on a normal day will likely take 30 minutes on your wedding day, essentially accounting for the increased busyness and potential delays that come with the special occasion; it’s a reminder to plan extra time for everything on your wedding day timeline. 

Managing your guest list can be a tricky balancing act. Begin by setting the tone for your celebration (whether you want an intimate affair or a grand event). Prioritise close family and friends first, then add secondary guests. Be mindful of your venue capacity and budget constraints. If you’re struggling with plus ones or distant relatives, it’s okay to have a discussion and set clear boundaries. Consider using wedding planning apps or spreadsheets to keep everything organised.

Send your wedding invitations at least 8-12 weeks before the wedding. This allows guests ample time to RSVP, make travel arrangements, and book accommodation if necessary. Make sure to include all relevant details, including directions to the venue, dress code (if any), and any special instructions, such as parking or local hotels.

It’s important to consider dietary restrictions when planning your menu. Request dietary information on the RSVP cards, asking guests to specify any food allergies or preferences. Many venues, including Manor by the Lake, can offer a range of menu options, from vegetarian and vegan to gluten-free or nut-free meals, ensuring all your guests are well taken care of.

The legal requirements for marriage vary depending on where you are. In the UK, you’ll need to give notice of marriage at your local registry office at least 28 days before your wedding day. You’ll also need to provide documents like passports and proof of address. Be sure to consult your venue or a legal professional to ensure all necessary paperwork is in order.

While some couples enjoy the planning process, others prefer to hire a professional. A wedding planner can relieve much of the stress by managing details, coordinating vendors, and ensuring everything runs smoothly on the day. If you’re considering a larger wedding or want to ensure everything is flawless, a planner might be worth the investment.

Themed weddings can add a fun, personal touch to your day. Some popular and unique wedding themes include:

• Boho Chic: Incorporate natural elements like flowers, earthy tones, and vintage décor.
• Rustic Barn: Wooden features, fairy lights, and countryside charm.
• Vintage Glamour: Think old Hollywood with classic cars, elegant attire, and art deco accents.
• Fairy-tale Romance: Think castle venues, soft lighting, and enchanted forest vibes.

Wedding vows are deeply personal, so it’s important to make them meaningful. Include promises that reflect your values and commitment. Common themes include promises to support one another, cherish your love, and face life’s challenges together. Don’t be afraid to add a personal touch or a little humour to make the moment unique.

Creating a wedding day timeline helps ensure everything runs smoothly. Work backward from your ceremony time and build the schedule around key moments, such as the first look, family photos, and speeches. Factor in time for hair and makeup, getting dressed, and travel to the venue. Don’t forget time for the all-important dinner and dancing!

If you’d prefer cash gifts, it’s important to ask politely and with respect. You can include a note in your invitation or wedding website, stating that while you appreciate any gifts, a monetary contribution would be gratefully received to help fund your future together. Another idea is to create a wedding fund on your gift registry, allowing guests to contribute to specific experiences or things you’re saving for.

On your wedding morning, take deep breaths, stay hydrated, and keep the mood light. Make time for a calm breakfast with close friends or family, and avoid rushing. Have a checklist of everything you need to do, and trust that the team around you will take care of the details. Remember, this is a day to enjoy and celebrate!

While it’s traditional that only the bride wears white, it’s often helpful to include a note in your wedding invitations or website requesting guests to avoid wearing white. A simple phrase such as “We kindly ask that guests refrain from wearing white or ivory to maintain the focus on the bride” will do the trick without sounding too formal.

Wedding speeches don’t have to be overly formal or stiff. Encourage your speakers to speak from the heart and add a personal touch, whether it’s a funny anecdote, a heartfelt story, or a memorable quote. It’s also a good idea to keep speeches brief and light-hearted, as this will keep your guests engaged and entertained.

Choosing the perfect honeymoon destination depends on what you want from your getaway. For a relaxing beach holiday, places like the Maldives or the Caribbean are fantastic year-round destinations. If you prefer adventure, think about New Zealand or Japan. If you’re more into culture and history, Europe offers countless beautiful cities. The best time to go depends on your destination, so research the ideal seasons for your dream location.

Wedding planning doesn’t have to be stressful. By addressing key questions and knowing the answers, you’ll have everything you need to ensure your special day goes off without a hitch. At Manor by the Lake, we’re here to support you every step of the way, making your wedding day everything you’ve imagined and more.